Are you the victim or the hero of your own story?

//Are you the victim or the hero of your own story?

Are you the victim or the hero of your own story?

We all have a Hero inside us – we might just need to tell ourselves a new story about who we are.

We all have a story, drawn from a series of events that have happened over our life time. These events have helped shape us into the person that we are. What happens when we start letting the bad things that happen define us? When we let those negative thoughts creep over us, sucking us in and before we know it we are engaging in our own self-pity story. We have all been there at some point, telling people the story that has lead to this point, a story that is not really the story that we want to be telling, but the story that is full of excuses, self-reasoning and justification, the story of the victim!

Once you’ve seen it, you can’t go back.

If we are truthful, to ourselves and everyone else, we have all been the victim at some point – it is the easy option. The one question I have asked many of my clients is, “Do you want to play the victim, or do you want to be the Hero of your own story?” This is quite confronting; however, it is as simple as a choice, one choice made in an instant. Being the Hero is the hard road, you are required to hold yourself accountable, be honest and often face things about yourself that may be hard to acknowledge and overcome. Being the Hero, as hard as it is, also has lots of perks. Face your fears, quit the excuses, hold yourself accountable and eventually you will see the Matrix. The glass half empty becomes the glass half full.

Failure = Life Lessons and greater awareness = bigger opportunities. You can be anything, do anything and achieve everything, if you lose the excuses.

So, a few handy tips to keep us on track to achieving our goals.

  • Self-awareness, ask yourself if your behaviour is beneficial?
  • Things don’t always work out to plan, however there is always a lesson to be learnt. Stop, take a breath and write down the things that you have learnt, they are part of your journey and can help propel you forward.
  • Maintain a positive mindset. When you are struggling, think of 3 the things you are grateful for today. Live in the moment, sing at the top of your lungs to your favourite song, try to do the floss with your kids (don’t film it, my kids think it’s hilarious). It doesn’t matter what it is, it just needs to make you smile. Being the Hero is much easier when you are in a good mental state.
  • Surround yourself with positive people who are on a similar journey. Misery loves company and negative people feed negative thoughts, so find people who want you to be the best version of you.


A few simple things can make such a huge difference. You are amazing, you are enough, and you are capable of being an amazing Hero.